Life Hope

Living in Love

Living in Hope

Living in Peace

Love your self truly

Hope for a better tomorrow

Peace at heart

True to yourself always

Tomorrow is a greater day

Sincere heart leads a long way

That is my hope of life....

Something to share

My sister sent me this...it is not new I have read it before, but thought it is a good reminder of how one should think of life when facing difficulties and uncertainty. Life is never a bed of roses...we face ups and downs, we stand up and walk again. When we are down, we reflect and we re build our confident...continue to live to make it better than yesterday !

Cheers...

A Story to live by ~

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'

有一位瞎女很討厭自己因為眼睛瞎了。她也討厭每個人，唯一不討厭的是她的男朋友，因為他都常守在她身旁。於是她對她的男朋友說：「如果能讓我看到這個世界，我愿意嫁給你！」

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages

came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.

有一天，有人捐了一對眼精給她。當紗布解開時，她能夠看到一切，包括她的男朋友。

He asked her, 'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected

that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.

男朋友問她：「現在你可以看到這世界，你愿意嫁給我嗎？」那女孩看了男朋友是個瞎子，他那對蓋上眼皮的眼睛嚇到了她，這是她無法想像。她想：要我嫁給他而一生對着他這個樣子，我無法接受。

Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'

於是，她的男朋友很傷心的離開她，幾天後寫了字條給她：「親愛的，請你好好照顧你的眼睛，因為它不是屬於你的之前，它是屬於我的。」

This is how the human brain often works when our status changes. Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

這也是人的腦會如何做當情況有所變動。只有少許人會記得他或她之前的生活及誰會在身旁當他或她處在困境的時候

Life Is a Gift

生命是一份禮物

Today before you say an unkind word - Think of someone who can't speak.

今天，當你要講一句不善之言－－請想想那些無法講話的人

Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

當你要埋怨食物的味道時－－請想想那些沒有食物吃的人

Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.

當你要埋怨你的先生或太太時－－請想想那些在向上天哭訴要一個伴侶的人

Today before you complain about life - Think of someone who died too early on this earth.

今天，當你要埋怨生活時－－請想想那些太早離開人世間的人

Before you complain about your children - Think of someone who desires children but they're barren....

當你要埋怨小孩時－－請想想那些渴望小孩而無能生育的人

Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep - Think of the people who are living in the streets.

當你要爭論沒有人清理屋子時－－請想想那些住在街邊的人

Before whining about the distance you drive Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

當你在哀訴駕駛的路程－－請想想那些同樣的路程以代步的人

And when you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

當你很疲備而埋怨工作時－－請想想那些無工作，殘疾的，及那些多麼希望擁有你這份工作的人

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another - Remember that not one of us is without sin.

當你想要指著人或互相譴責時－－請記得沒有一個人是無罪

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on your face and think: you're alive and still around.

當壓抑的念頭讓你無法振作時－－請你笑一笑想想：你還活著存在世間！

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I PRAY THIS MOVES AROUND THE ENTIRE UNIVERSE..

Progress of my divorce

After many months of not really sure what is happening, I called the lawyer again yesterday just to know the status. The person in charged of my file was away in court, I was a bit impatient, told them to leave message ensuring that I get a return call.

5pm, no call from the lawyer's office, I called up and was told she was still away from office. And half an hour ago, she returned my call ! I am glad she did. I told her the stress and agony of me in this divorce, I really don't know what to do, I can't have my husband back yet I have to bear all the responsibility of what he was supposed to do ! And I have to wait for months for it to be legalised and not even sure if the court will pass our petition.

I expressed to her my feeling and stress dealing with this. Since I started this proceeding almost 6 months ago, it should have concluded and not delaying till another 3 - 4 months.

Sounded like I am in the hurry to divorce, NO I am not, and I am not in the hurry to remarry ! I just want to conclude one uncertainty in life. To me, I don't bother to remarry, after what I have been through, I just want a life, a very happy and contented one maybe with someone that truly cares for me. Just creating happiness, walk through ups and down together in our lives.

Today, I asked the lawyer again the whole process, currently my "husband" is reviewing the amended petition, and once he returns we will sign the document. And after filing with the court, the hearing should be in 3 - 4 weeks time. That is when the judge will meet us personally or I may choose to be presented by the lawyer...not sure, and the judge will decide on our terms. If all goes well...3 months later it is declared all DONE. I can officially change my title to "Divorcee".

I feel so helpless...I am just a single lady managing all and 3 children ! I know I have been strong but at some point in life, I do feel weak ! So weak that I just break down and cry. At times like this, a good warm hug would be nice. I need one :)

This emotional thing is really disturbing...

Feeling down

I have been feeling down since yesterday !

Very much emotionally disturbed

I hadn't slept well at all last night

Toss and turn, forcing myself to sleep

Before 5am, I am up on the bed

Waiting for the sky to turn bright

Headed straight down for my walk

Walked so much more than usual

Feeling so down, finally I cried it out

My little girl hugged me and kissed me

Not really sure why her mommy was crying

Her little hands comforting my weak heart !

I can't go on like this

I feel extremely low in energy

I need to get over it

I will and I surely will very soon !

Confusing mind

Why am I feeling so confusing about life ?

What is wrong somewhere ?

Why is life so cruel to me ?

Why it can be so sweet now then turn bad another day ?

God, please tell me why ?

Haven't I gone through enough ?

Can you spare this loving kindness to me ?

I don't how much longer I can bear !!

I got to get out of this....yes I have to !

Detoxification

I couldn't sleep, having stomachache due to the detoxification programme that I am currently consuming !

I have done this before and I vividly remember the reaction after the first day ! However, this time around, it is flushing more than the first round ! Probably this time my blood circulation has improved, and overall it is responding better. Hopefully it is for the best !

So far it is only the second day, I hope it really helps to detox what has to go out from my system. I don't want to loose weight..I only want a healthy body !

This is probably the only detox programme I have tried, other than working out and sweating out regularly ! Oh yes, I remember many years ago, I tried this foot soaking thingy that after 20 mins, the tub is filled with rusty looking colour water, supposedly is the toxin from our body, that was the only time I did.

Lately I notice after I have started exercising regularly, I perspire more than usual, in a slight warm room, I can feel my sweat on my forehead and all over. I got to use waterproof make up...haha, otherwise it will ruin my make up and needed more touch up...but I think this is a good sign.

Great, thinking of working out with some friends at the gym, still contemplating yes or no!

The Secret

I have many friends who shared with me about this book ~ The Secret ~ and everyone has been telling me to read. So finally I bought it some times ago and it was the Chinese version !

Read through it and ok pretty easy to understand, and now I think I will apply some of them to my daily life. Perhaps should see something "secretly" happening to me.

Somehow, I still think I need to read the English version ! Maybe it will gives me a different inspiration in life !

What am I waiting for ?

I had a chat recently about divorce and he said if you can manage financially, do you want him to pay for the alimony for the children ? Do you still want to be associated with him in future ? No matter what happened, the fact is he has been supporting me and the children ? I shared with him, I hadn't said any thing bad to the children about their father and I don't intend to! In fact, I always tell them "Papa loves all of you, just that mama and papa has differences that we can't live together." And to my children, their father has gone to work in another place.

This is what they think of what is happening at home ! Honestly my son felt something is not right at home, but I have not told them the divorce is in the process !

To me, it is about his responsibility as a father, it is secondary whether I can afford or not ! And the way my lawyer is working on the divorce, I really do not know how much longer it will take. I am here paying everything that he should pay as stated in the divorce petition, but since it is not legalised yet, he is not doing anything. I wonder if there is such thing as back date ?

What am I waiting for ? Is the lawyer going to process it sooner ? Do I want to rush the divorce for the sake of him taking up the financial responsibility ? They are many cases once the divorce is done, they stopped paying.

What will happen then ?

Just feeling down today over work issue plus a lot of thinking over this issue !

A hectic weekend with a smile

Last weekend was a hectic weekend for me. In between events, I have to juggle with my family's event, my daughter had to attend her ballet exam, plus need to get food refill for the week..otherwise, my poor children will be starving...hehe !

But it has been a great one, I have successfully concluded another great event for my client.

Everyone feels great about it, enjoyed themselves very much during the cultural evening, programme and activities were well organized and interactive based.

My client whom has supported me since last August, is now more than a client, whenever I worked with her on any project, I also consider many plus points for the benefits of the client especially during this global economy crisis, cost is a main factor and I would do my best to minimize the cost yet achieved the anticipated result.

I am relief and happy that this is another success for me. I also like to thank my fellow colleagues who have worked very hard ensuring the smooth running of the event.

This is what I believe in life both personal and work, it is about self believing in my value, passion and being true to myself.

:-)

What a day !!!

What a day ???

The first half of the day, in the morning, every thing was smooth, sweet and great.  I went to meet up with my client for the project that I am currently organising and came back to the office, got some email replied, and had a very good chat with a friend, something funny and interesting.

But the other half day was really traumatised.  Guess what ????? My laptop was stolen split of a second I walked away to deliver a few documents to my client whose car was parked right in front of me.  I was very sure that I closed the door after I pulled out a few documents but I didn't lock the car.  See, I never thought of locking my car because I was just less than 10 steps away.  I got to blame my own negligent, I least expected this could happen.  It happened along Jalan 13 /6 right in front of Jaya One, a very busy street in fact.

When I went to the police station to make a report, I felt an insult seeing our police force's working attitude.  No professionalism, one was seating at her place munching some crackers away, other 2 were taking their report.  It was my turn and the lady Sergeant told the officer to handle my case, his gesture to her was...nahhh I got to go for lunch !

And the lady Sargent finally stopped rocking her chair while munching, and asked me if I could type my own report.  I have no problem to type but with no experience in making police report, I was just wondering if police report should be taken down by the officer or I am supposed to do it myself.  

Next, she told me to go to another police station to have the statement taken by another officer, and I had to wait for their call later.  Till now, no calls from either one of them.

I believe our police are capable of doing their task, but at least please show some professionalism.  The police station is their work place and they are the uniform squad and people SHOULD have high respect for them.  I know there is no way for me to find my laptop, but at least if I was given that due professionalism, I feel better.

My day continued with my meeting with client, and I was at the hotel to unload some stuff at the lobby, I was stopped and told to go to another unloading area.  We had done many events there and never had to do that.  On normal days, I would just do as told, as they are also doing their job, but not today, I was unhappy, feeling stressed and I felt the strong sense of objection inside me..I refused to follow the instruction.  Finally..it was solved.

I was extremely exhausted mentally, traumatised by the incident.  Too busy no lunch, and I decided to stop by my favourite Beef Noodle store near Petaling street, at least something to make me feel better at least.  Honestly when I was walking along the street this afternoon, I was feeling the aftershock, fear of someone snatching my handbag and etc..

I need to sleep and pray that whoever has stolen my laptop, please do not do any injustice to my personal items.  For whatever reason you have to do this crime, please do not harm others !  May they be blessed with wisdom of what is right or wrong !

Just another bad day...

Another divorce story

I found this cosy cafe on the upper floor at Cake Sense in TTDI, it is a quiet place equipped with Wifi facility. I chose to stay outdoor, open air with shade, airy and comfortable.  It is a perfect place for me while waiting for my next appointment.

I decided to write this post about a girl friend of mine, almost one year ago, we met for tea and I shared with her my sad story about my marriage, and she gave me encouragement to live and be strong.  And guess what today, when I met her, she said she is prepared to divorce.  Her husband has always been a "womaniser" and expecting her to accept that one night stand is perfectly normal in their marriage.

They had been married for 13 years, knowing that the husband hasn't been fully loyal to her, she tried ways to keep the marriage and even created a plot that she has someone simply to gain the husband's attention...and this has back fired.  Sadly her husband has accused her of adultery and use this excuse for him to continue having his affairs outside. She has totally lost the trust for her husband.

After a good 13 years of suffering, she has decided to split.  The only good thing about this couple is they are childless...and it saves tons of hassle in their divorce.

We have both gone through emotional distraught while facing our marriage problem, and I must say that I was lucky and quick enough to walk tall again.  The worst is when we are unable to come to term with our self.  I shared with her how I cope and how I re-live and told her what she should accept it the reality of her new life, and not her husband's past hurtful event.  They are irrelevant now...more importantly is her new life ahead!

I fully understand her feeling and the stress she is coping with.  It is still new and fresh in her mind after 9 months when she first heard from her husband admitting on his affair.  It is not easy to let go and recover from the  broken heartache !

So sad but it is another broken marriage....Divorce is not an easy process, no matter how much he loves her before the big "D" is mentioned, now everything has changed, he no longer uses the same tone of voice.  

I was emotionally up and down today thinking of what I been through myself !  I am glad that I have progressed well so far and I am a happier person :)

May she be well, happy and peaceful, Metta !

My scenic walk

The scenic of my regular walk is about the same each time, I am not complaining about it because I have different songs for my listening pleasure, different sweeper working around the condo, keeping the landscaping neat and well kept.

Recently my walk is even greater because of the sight of yellow flowers carpeted the road.  It feels like the golden showers by the Angsana bright yellow flower.    As I walk pass the stretch that is shaded by the well grown Angsana tree, the scent from these yellow flowers definitely made me feel refreshing.   It is very mild...yet we could smell it !  Sometimes I wish the gardener would leave them on the ground, but they only last one day...the next day you see, they don't look as nice !  I appreciate the sight, but to the gardener and sweeper, it can be a real nuisance..haha !  They work so hard everyday I notice, sweeping all these flowers and the leaves that fall along especially during breezy days !

I read that this flower blooms in April, and I supposed that is why I am seeing a lot more lately.  I love my walk..the fresh scent from the flower, the great sight on the ground and most importantly it keeps me well physically !  

Chicken a la Carte

You must watch this video to appreciate what we have and how lucky we are !  I am sure in real life, it actually happened...so sad !

View this movie at cultureunplugged.com

Sometimes we complain certain things in life incluiding the food is less tasty...and imagine, the left overs are the best food for these children..and they enjoy the "Gourmet" with joy...

He is just not that into you

Just reading the title of the movie, we clearly understand what it means particularly in relationship.  So how ? When he is just not that into you ?  Come to think of it, if some one tells you this, it can be very hurtful !

After I watched the movie, it is kind of confusing though a little that how and what should be the approach in friendship towards relationship.   When a guy say something awful to you or hurt you, it is a sign of he likes you??...so there goes the beginning of the problem, and each time if some one hurts you, you think he is interested in you ! Is this some kind of a state of denial to accept the truth or there is actually a logic to it ?  In my opinion...it is Yes and No.

At some point, nowadays do we still wait for the guys to call?  Isn't ok for the lady to initiate the call ?  And if the guy is not initiating any contact, does it mean "He is just not that into you" and he is not interested in you?  If the lady is more pro active in her approach, what would be the reaction of the guy, she is too needy and clinging ? Is that just an assumption of the lady's character ?  Maybe she is not needy but she is just a very warm and passionate person ?

In this era of equality for both male and female, does dating or relationship play the same role ?  Do you really have to wait for the male to initiate ?  I think I do need to watch this movie again..for whatever reason just to digest the theory better.

Most of the time, we chase something in our life, the person that we like, the things that we enjoy and many times we oversight some important people that passes by.    I remember once I posted about The Sign...I realised while pursuing my career and coping with family, I actually didn't notice the sign of my marriage was on the rock.  On the surface, it seems calm and wonderful but it was a matter of time that the bubble burst.   It all happened just like that at the right time for whatever reasons...

Nevertheless, it is still a learning process, it can be painful and hurtful or accepting it with gladness that it is a sense of wisdom to me.  Some are lucky in their life, not much of dealing with unexpected marriage turmoil and unhappiness such as divorce and separation.  

What is important and remain in my mind is HOPE...I will never give up hope that life ahead will be greener and happy for me.  I know we have ups and downs, but as soon as I feel down, I pick myself up again...and I know one day, my perseverance will be rewarded.

If you haven't watch this movie, it is ok to watch it.  It is quite relaxing and a nice romantic comedy.  Anyhow, love relationship is complicated.  Yet, we can't live without one.  Sometimes I wonder, why are we born so complicated, if you like someone and if the chemistry seems right, what is there to worry and consider ?   Give it a try...take the gut out of you to make the first approach !

What say you  ?? 

:)

What is songs to me ?

"A song is no song till you sing it; 

A bell is no bell till you ring it; 

and love in your heart was not put there to stay;

Love is not love till you give it away."

What a beautiful song !

 

Some say love it is a river 
that drowns the tender reed 
Some say love it is a razor 
that leaves your soul to bleed 

Some say love it is a hunger 
an endless aching need 
I say love it is a flower 
and you it's only seed 

It's the heart afraid of breaking 
that never learns to dance 
It's the dream afraid of waking that never takes the chance 
It's the one who won't be taken 
who cannot seem to give 
and the soul afraid of dying that never learns to live 

When the night has been too lonely 
and the road has been too long 
and you think that love is only 
for the lucky and the strong 
Just remember in the winter far beneath the bitter snows 
lies the seed 
that with the sun's love 
in the spring 
becomes the rose 

Rose ~ the love of many women.   Rose is always linked to love, especially red roses are symbol of sexual love, woman's beauty and pleasure in relationship.  The use of rose is not limited to just love for the living being, but in funeral it is also used as a sign of love to our dearly departed person in our lives.

It is not a new song, and it is a song of yesteryear that we have heard it many times, but each time when I listen to a song, the lyrics will remind me of my life and my experience.  I will sink into the song, feel the meaning of the song.  Some songs really sing my heart out, exactly those feeling at that moment.  I guess all songs are written for a purpose, the right song is always there for those who needs it at the right time..

I can't live a day without listening to songs or any type of music......song is part of me and it is connected to me through love...love of my life, my family and religion.

Sing ~ I love to sing and it is also a way to relax more so like recreations for me.  When I sing, I really enjoy myself and sing the best I could.  This is how much I enjoy listening to music, sentimental ones in general are my favourite, love songs of 80's.  It is so important to fill my life with music as a stimulation to my brain, when I walk in the morning, I will listen to some religious chant....boring right...just doubling up the benefits of keeping healthy and religiously enriched....haha ! Sometimes I will choose randomly from the song library, can be fast or slow as long as it soothes my ears !!   I just love Carpenter's song...Here is another great song...

Sing out loud

Sing out strong
Sing of good things not bad
Sing of happy not sad.

Sing, sing a song
Make it simple to last
Your whole life long
Don't worry that it's not
Good enough for anyone
Else to hear
Just sing, sing a song.

Sing, sing a song
Let the world sing along
Sing of love there could be
Sing for you and for me.

Sing, sing a song
Make it simple to last
Your whole life long
Don't worry that it's not

Good enough for anyone
Else to hear
Just sing, sing a song.

Miracle

I visited an old friend as well as client that I have lost touch for at least 10 years,  I was really surprised that when I first made a call to his office, he could immediately remember my surname !  I guess I have given him good impression when he was my client almost more than a decade ago.

We have both aged...but look good and healthy !

Casually we chatted a bit of our personal life...and this question about "How is your husband doing ?" Hmmm...I thought over and I decided my answer should be "We are not together anymore".  He looked shock..and he said " I am so sorry, I didn't mean to KPC into your personal life, but since we have been old friends, I thought it is only appropriate that we talk a bit of our family".

So, we both had our share to talk and update about our family !  I know he felt really bad of asking me about my personal life that he hadn't expected that answer from me !  And he asked another question "If by any chance miracle happens and your husband wants to come back, will you accept him?"  Hahaha..my answer is if only miracle happens, I will think of that answer !  It takes two to trust each other if our love for each other is still the same !  It takes a lot of trust to love one person and to be committed in any relationship !

He shared with me a real story of his friend whom she was beaten up by the husband when their marriage turned bad, and she vowed she will not go back to him.  Miracles happened, the husband came back to her and wanted to make up..and somehow, she has that forgiven heart and they are now back together.

Miracle to me is something that happened out of impossible, like act of God !  

I don't know if I will consider a miracle if there is any change to my marriage !  However, I do feel grateful that this friend was giving me hope for the best for my marriage...

I believe miracle of love will take away your pain when it comes your way again !

Book of Wisdom

Many years ago, while I was traveling and I think I was in Australia...can't remember which city, I picked up this book !  I think I must have paid more than what I could get in Malaysia, but you know that kind of feeling, especially when I am abroad, when I see something that I really want it, and afraid I couldn't get it elsewhere...so I bought it.

This little book is an inspirational reading material for me.  When I am down, I would open up any section and read a few pages.  If there is related topic, I will focus on that area.  Reading this book, helps me to strengthen my faith, and brings up the relief in me.  

I think I have read this little book a few times, yet I still find it comforting !

Sharing here is another favourite mantra "Oṃ Tāre Tuttāre Ture Svāhā " ....short and sweet! 

Sleepless

Sleepless and got up to work on email

Trying to go back to sleep but 

Mind started to think again..

Maybe a short meditation might help !

I always like this song ~ the meaning  and melody !

Quiet Wednesday

There is nothing much to write, 

Been thinking a lot today

Work, life, family and friends

But, it has been a good day

Nothing special happened today

Just my life, my work and the routine

Tomorrow will be great

Dedication and appreciation for work

I wonder if I live a lonely life

No friends, no excitement, no love

How meaningless it would be

I appreciate my experiences 

I value and treasure every moment of my life :-)

Posting a lovely song here to unwind...

Mudita ~ Intoxicated in Joy

Intoxicated in joy, what a great feeling !?

When our loved one shares his happiness

We rejoice in it without any

Envy, jealousy and comparison

With sincere celebration and radiating happiness

It takes a good practise

Constantly remember to rejoice in  others

Happiness, success and joy

It will be ours one day to feel the happiness

Of what others felt before !

Develop the joy on other's success

In returning for our own happiness

May you be happy, successful and prosperous

May I be happy, successful and prosperous

May all beings be happy, successful and prosperous !

Mudita ~ rejoicing of joyfulness

The inner spring of infinite joy

Let us drink this spring forever

Get intoxicated with the abundant of happiness

Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu  !

我的回憶不是我的 / 你的承诺

I am in the mood for songs tonight...listening to them on youtube and downloading them to my ipod !  I heard it over the radio but have no idea what is the title.  Till when my mechanic loaned me his car, and I found this song, and there are two versions - mandarin and cantonese.....haha ! 

I hope you will enjoy just like I do :)

A grateful day

Today everything seems great !

Appointment and meeting went well, 

Discussion with client was productive

Event is going steady and smooth as planned.  

Phone call with client was promising 

Pending subject is also on the way to conclude.

Traffic was easy despite traveling after rain !  

Dinner at home was delicious too :)

I guess I should say, it has been a blessed day and a day to be grateful for !

Thank you and sharing here lovely songs ~  I Miss You ~ & ~ I'll be your everything ~ for you and me !

Growing old together

Today while I was waiting for my children, I witness something that I felt sad about it.

A couple in their early 60's I believe, and the man has suffered stroke on the right side, and there was a napkin hang over his shirt as he salivates unconsciously.  The woman looks healthy with the help from the maid, pushing her husband around in the wheel chair.

We were sharing the lift and I couldn't see any sign of happiness shown on her face,  her facial expression was very dull, and the only gesture I saw was she wiping his saliva that was dripping off from his mouth.  

I began to think, how long has she been doing this ? What is her pain in coping with this situation ? Does she have any frustration ?  How about the man, he looks tall and well built even though he is sitting on the wheel chair, and what would be his frustration unable to move due to limited physical ability plus speech impairment ?  What is on his mind for those who cares for him ? Can they both share how they feel for each other now ?

The thought that came to my mind was, as a wife or life partner, when one is stricken with such sickness,  it is the duty of the capable one to look after, accept him unconditionally and be prepared to walk this path together.  Saying is easy, but when reality hits us, it is about facing different life altogether, it is also a time to test oneness ultimately !

I feel sympathy for them.  The best I can do for myself is to stay healthy, hopefully I don't have to go through this and expecting someone to take care of me.  While we can and if you have someone to love, just love truly and enjoy each other, give the best love you have, show the most affectionate part of you to your loved one !  Good  life and happy moments can be short...so, just enjoy la !

Metta loving kindness to this couple...may they be well, healthy and happy ! Sharing here two beautiful love songs...

Have a wonderful week ahead :)

Children's talk

Every weekend, my routine is all around my children, I will have either 2 of them with me or 3 altogether.

As usual, the children will chat among themselves while I am busy driving, and the most happy and funny one would be my youngest daughter - Jolene.  She is 3 and learning to speak and most of the time, she copy-cat her siblings.   

They always confused her like asking her if she is a boy ? and expect her to say yes for most of the answers.  Sometimes she got it right..sometimes obviously she made us laugh.

Today, they teased her or I would say bullied her, asking her if she likes ko-ko or cheh-cheh.  For a start, she followed if the question ended with ko-ko or cheh-cheh as the answer.  Next, when she was asked again, hahaha...I have a good laugh, her answer is ko-cheh.

This reminded of what my son told me before almost one and half years ago, he said since they do not have papa, they should call me ma-pa or pa-ma....as I doubled the role of a father and mother !

This laughter is what keeps me young and happy....what a good remedy to stay healthy !

Love Quote

I am not a Christian, but I read this from my blog (one of those Love Quote by Google gadget) and I find it very meaningful and I like to post it here !    To all who celebrates this special day, Happy Easter, have a blessed weekend !

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres". 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Handy Woman

It is Saturday and it seems like a day getting things fixed up in the house !

I guess it is my nature that I can't leave things in the house unfixed !  Since day 1 I became "Mrs XXX", I realised I have been a handy wife.  Perhaps it is my independent nature that I overtook the role of managing the household.  If you ask me if I like it that way, not really !  I like to be a wife not a handy wife.   But at home, we need to have one handy person or a person who will organise the household, I proudly became one...lol !

Basically what I really need is to ask and to seek advice before I proceed, and I will get things done.  Just a matter of getting some advice if that is right way to do it.   I think nowadays, women are equally good in managing house hold !

No matter how independent I can be, I feel it is necessary to have someone whom we trust and we can ask opinion !  For example, I never knew much about my car, technically how do I keep up the condition of the car, somehow, I am forced by circumstances to deal with it.   So, it is good to ask for advice before I go ahead.

Why do I post about this ?  Coincidently a few things in the house didn't work and I got them fixed.   I remember sometimes ago, I had never dealt with the PC in the house, and it broke down.  I have no clue how to fix it, I was totally lost as it was maintained by my husband.  At that time,  I felt the frustration and I don't know what to do and who to call, can you imagine I don't even know the password and I depended so much on him ! Finally, I searched the newspaper, found a small ads and since then he became my PC repairer.

What I am saying is, everyday it is a learning lesson for me.   At some point in my life, I lost the dependency of someone, and I desperately need to find a way to survive on my own feet.  And I always feel, I live a life that unconsciously has groomed me as a independent person, funny but maybe it is true, prepared me to face the challenges in life. 

Well, this is more so dealing with nitty gritty of life, but on emotional level, I guess I am coping ok but it is still human nature that we need to have companionship.  I can't imagine living a life without love, friends and family ~ to love and be loved, I like both !

Have a good weekend, it has been a good one for me so far :)

Your smile made me smile

I often have friends telling me they like my SMILE :)

I wonder if that is true, do I really have a smile that could warm a person's heart ? I don't have a Monalisa's signature smile unfortunately. Do I really make a person smile looking at my photo ?  

My smile is sincere, kind and genuine.  And when I smile, it is truly from the bottom of my heart, no faking unless I don't feel like smiling..at times I would !  It is not about just flexing the muscle on the face, but if you feel happy, it is naturally a warm smile !

I always feel smile is contagious, I remember once someone asked me how are you ? I replied, I am feeling good and happy, and immediately he could sense a smile on my face, and he replied, I am smiling too.  Your smile made me smile !  

I live a simple life and I care to see others smile and always do.  And if my smile could bring happiness to someone, it is indeed my great pleasure.  

Always remember to be happy because you never know who's falling in love with your smile.  

Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.  ~Mother Teresa

WAYS TO TURN DOWN UNWANTED MEN !!!!

Have a good laugh ! Can be useful...lol !

HE : Can I buy you a drink? SHE : Actually I'd rather have the money. HE : I'm a photographer. I've been looking for a face like yours.  SHE : I'm a plastic surgeon. I've been looking for a face like yours.  HE : Hi. Didn't we go on a date once? Or was it twice?  SHE : Must've been once. I never make the same mistake twice.  HE : How did you get to be so beautiful?  SHE : I must've been given your share.  HE : Will you go out with me this Saturday? SHE : Sorry. I'm having a headache this weekend. HE : Your face must turn a few heads. SHE : And your face must turn a few stomachs. HE : Go on ,don't be shy. Ask me out.  SHE : Okay, get out. HE : I think I could make you very happy. SHE : Why? Are you leaving?  HE : What would you say if I asked you to marry me?  SHE : Nothing. I can't talk and laugh at the same time.  HE : Can I have your name?  SHE : Why? Don't you already have one?  HE : Shall we go see a movie? SHE : I've already seen it.  HE : Where have you been all my life? SHE : Hiding from you. HE : Haven't I seen you some place before? SHE : Yes.. That's why I don't go there anymore.  HE : Is this seat empty? SHE : Yes, and this one will be if you sit down. HE : So, what do you do for a living? SHE : I'm a female impersonator.  HE : Hey baby, what's your sign? SHE : Do not enter.  HE : Your body is like a temple.  SHE : Sorry, there are no services today. HE : If I could see you naked, I'd die happy. SHE : If I saw you naked, I'd probably die laughing.

Best of me

A song to remember how I appreciate this day !

BEST OF ME by Daniel Powter...hope you like it !  Good night and sweet dream..may tomorrow be another great day for you and me !

I was made the wrong way
won't you do me the right way
where you gonna be tonight
'cause I won't stay too long

maybe you're the light for me
when you talk to me it strikes me
won't somebody help me
'cause I don't feel too strong

Was it something that I said
was it something that I did
or the combination of both that did me wrong

You know I'm hoping you'll sing along
Though it's not your favorite song
don't wanna be there when there's nothing left to say
you know that some of us spin again
when you do, you need a friend
don't wanna be there when there's nothing left for me
and I hate the thought of finally being erased
baby that's the best of me

Everything's behind you
but the hope still stands beside you
living in every moment
have I wasted all your time

Was there something that I said
was there something that I did
or the combination I broke that did me have

You know I'm hoping you'll sing along
though it's not your favorite song
don't wanna be there when there's nothing left to say
you know that some of us spin again
when you do, you need a friend
don't wanna be there when there's nothing left for me
and I hate the thought of finally being erased
baby that's the best of me
baby that's the best of me

You know I'm hoping you'll sing along
though it's not your favorite song
don't wanna be there when there's nothing left to say
you know that some of us spin again
when you do, you need a friend
don't wanna be there when there's nothing left for me
and I hate the thought of finally being erased
baby that's the best of me