Why do I blog ?

Why do I blog ?

It was inspired by a friend to start blogging, and never thought of how blogging can do to one, I am addicted to writing my thoughts, experiences in life, some funny and basically my life journal.

I only started writing this life journal after 40 years, and before when I was younger, I used to write "secret diary" those that of extreme secretive contents. I think I still keep the diary, but got to dig through some boxes to find it.

With this open diary, it becomes a way of me expressing my life experiences, my daily encounters, especially writing something about my new experience. Anyone who reads my blog will somehow get to know me better.

It is about my realisation in life, meeting new friends and totally a new journey. I have never thought of being a single parent, so today my experience is about me seeking the balance as a single mom and career woman. How can I achieve the life that I want to? It is about the life path that I am taking day by day...the happiness and sadness in life, the wonderful people who came into my life to cheer me up when I am down and the love from my closest family members !

Today I am actually very tired physically because I have a rough night last night, my two older kids were having high fever, and I had hardly slept through ! Looking at them feeling weak, my heart hurts too. But I keep telling myself, I can't slow down, I have 3 wonderful darlings to look after, thankfully I have a good maid to share this burden with me.

So these are the experiences that I write in my blog ! I feel a sense of relief when I write them out to remember this moment in life.

Thanks for leading me to blog...

Money Sense

While I was out with my two older children, just before we left the house, I was unhappy with them because they have misplaced the small part of the toy that my sis bf just bought for them yesterday.

My daughter has asked me to buy some magic tricks for her that I didn't want to, but my sis bf loves them so much and he bought some for them. I know my children that they do misplace items and I think not only my children but some other families do have the same problem.

But today I was adamant that I want them to be appreciative of what they are provided in life. When I was talking about this, I thought if they were too young to understand the value of money. In the sense of understanding what money can do ! They are 10 and 7 years old and given pocket money to school, I am sure both of them understand what is important. And I am sure they have the basic money sense. What remains as my objective is to teach them to appreciate those who loves and provides them.

I started to share with them what we can do with RM50 that was paid for the toys as compared to the milk that I can get from the supermarket. It is not really about if they should be given the toys, but it is really my wish for them to appreciate whatever that they received.

I guess it is not a one lesson thingy to teach them to appreciate and understand the important of money and its value. Being a parent, it is a life long education for them. I really have to show them the right understanding of money sense...

Get healthy

I was in the hospital two days ago, while waiting for consultation at the emergency area, I couldn't help but kept looking around at everyone who stepped in.

One lady who was bleeding profusely on the nose, had a golf ball size of swollen eyes..blood all over her shirt, I felt so sad for her and it seems like she met an accident riding her motorcycle. Next, another man came in the observation area complaining of stomachache which lasted 2 - 3 days, and blood found in the urine, next I saw a woman looking pale and weak, not much of expression on her face...trying to look calm, but I know she is definitely very sick.

Witnessing all these in one night, my thought was immediately focused on I need to be healthy. I want to live a better life, not on material gain but better as in less sickness, healthy life style.

It is important to be spiritually strong in mind and our body does compliment the right mind set. I believe so and I really want it to happen that way. When I was younger, I used to go to the gym with my housemate. And when I started working, I don't exercise that much except for playing squash. And when I started to have my children, my focus was on them and I neglected my own fitness. I give all my time to my husband to have his golf game on weekly basis, while I stayed at home to look after the children. Occasionally we will go to the park with the kids. That is all I do for my fitness.

Thankfully, I am always careful with what I eat, less oil, not much of deep frying except for my favourite goreng pisang. I used to take roti canai for breakfast but I cut down and not even once a week. I take simple breakfast, toast bread, yogurt, cereal and eggs sometimes. I control what I eat for lunch, the fact is that the entire street behind my office, from the very first stall to the last are serving majority Indian or Malay rice. Only 1 - 2 stalls Chinese food serving Mixed rice, Yong Tau Foo and noodles. So, at times, I will skip or just take some fruits or if I can plan my lunch away from office, I would do so. As for dinner, it will be home cooked food, soup is the most important for my family. My kids love soup so do I. I am a very soupy person and each time when I change the maid, training them to boil soup is priority...

Generally, I am watchful of my diet and I appreciate the motivation from my dear friend to work out more, and I have started to work out regularly and it helps. I feel better nowadays and I hope to keep up with it.

I want to keep a healthy lifestyle and age gracefully....looking young haha :)

Picnic Breakfast

It is a Sunday morning that the children are not occupied with any activities.

Since Friday, we have decided and I promised them to go to the park for a picnic breakfast and work out. Eventhough I was very tired from a day out with my sister plus my son was ill last night and had to bring him to the hospital, we went along with the plan...it is unfair to them if I cancelled this outing and it has been awhile since we last went to the park.

Driving out from the house, in a cool breezy morning after rain last night, I left the windows down enjoying some fresh air. A little bit of sun from the sunroof.....but the feeling was great.

It was very crowded at the park and first thing my son said, "Mom, I remember this place, a lot of memories". I know very well what he meant, we, as it when the family was still in 'one piece' used to come here for walk on weekend. I know he has memories of his father spending time with him playing at the playground, walking along the stream, the suspension bridge and feeding the turtle. I couldn't help to feel the sadness for awhile, seeing other families enjoying themselves. I think that is natural that I have memories of the past...

We had a good walk, we talked and ran, they feed the birds, watching monkey and the children contributed some wastes at the public toilet...not bad 20 cents per entry but seems clean, and the clumsy little baby had a fall...no big deal, she is a tough girl.

Finally, we settled at the wooden picnic bench in the park for our breakfast. The maid has made some sandwiches and fruits. It is quite eventful morning, seeing a lovely young Malay couple enjoying their own 'bekal' breakfast, a Chinese young couple taking their wedding photo whereby the bride is actually wearing a pair of slippers under her elegant looking wedding gown and some other families young and old spending quality bonding moments.

It is the same for me.....it is about the bonding with my children not neglecting their childhood lifestyle. They really enjoyed themselves and I think I will bring them more often...

I am happy to have such a great Sunday morning.....I appreciate what life has given me so far !

:-)

Birthday Gift

Just wrote a post of intimate gift, here I am happy for my sister who will be celebrating her partner's birthday soon.

This birthday gift vs the intimate gift, I feel is equally balanced. The thought of having this special island get-away vacation for both of them means the appreciation for each other. How much one cares for each other and truly enjoy the company.

The planning though last minutes due to some unforseen circumstances, and taken a bit of urgent decision making. But it will be worthwhile as it is a gift of love, passion, hope and joy !

Hopefully one day, I will enjoy the same birthday gift from my loved one...

I am truly happy for both of you...have a great holiday and Happy Birthday !

Intimate Gift

I am not about to write anything intimate...just sharing my thoughts about an article that I have read from the Star yesterday !

It is about this book "365 Nights, A memoir of intimacy" and I read the review and find something interesting from it. The thought derives from giving her husband a unique and special gift for his 40th birthday ~ 365 nights of intimacy..sounds like a good idea. Most couple by the time they reached 40 years old, their marriage would have been about 10 - 15 years depending on how early they got married.

I have heard and experienced my self what sort of sexual relationship most couple would have by the time they started having children. Many of my friends even slept with the kids through the night, while the husband is happily watching his favourite sport programme any other show on the TV. I am not sure if it is only 1 - 2 nights in a week, but imagine if it becomes a habit, and if the husband is less enthusiastic about having sex, their sexual life would be very dreadful by the time they reached 40s.

Personally this is how I feel about couple who is less intimate and as a result, their relationship becomes less sparks, loss the passionate feeling for each other.

The author of this book said something meaningful "if nightly sex had such great benefits on your relationship, why did you stop ?" Let's give it a thought, no one should complain about this, just the matter of if we could keep up to it ! A quickie would be great too...haha ! Most importantly is how it helps to re-energise and transform the relationship !

In couple's relationship, it takes great effort to do something to bear on the relationship to make it fruitful. To keep this relationship connected at all times, it takes love, peace, joy, patience, loving kindness and faithfulness and many others good qualities we see in one another.

If I could turn back time, I would certainly do something like this...but who cares what happened before, too late now right !?? I would look forward to a new beginning and learn something everyday to make my "future partner" a complete man !

I think I will check out the book store for a copy of this book, it is not teaching you anything about sex, but merely how two soul mates reconnected, building up their physical intimacy and how its impact brings back a relationship. We have seen so many divorce and almost "dying" relationship, maybe it is worth a trial....

:-)