Restarting an affair again ??

In continuation to the post below, this lady showed her gratitude towards what he has done for her in the past, therefore they remained as friend after many years, but when she realised his desire to have physical relationship with her, she chose to stay away. Here we aren't sure if he has the same feeling towards her after so many years apart, but she knew well, if she had continued to be with him, she will be involved in an affair, she has taken much pain to stop it and she knew very well being a mistress is not easy.  She has managed all the problem of extra marital affairs all those years..

She was young and innocent and blinded by the attention that he gave her. But the fact is they both knew there is no future, and one day she will marry someone. She thought about being his mistress to him secretly, but back then, so much uncertainty and no future, how could she face her family and the society?

I have heard many stories related to extra marital affairs, every break up is painful in any relationship, no doubt there are sweet memories, but if given a choice, I think no one would want to be the mistress knowing what sort of life that would be. Sigh...

Undeniably, there is love in affairs relationship and not all are due to sex, unfortunately or fortunately in some cases the husband would eventually return to the wife or vice versa, it will end with break up that caused pain to all parties even the spouses if they knew about this.

In my opinion, if I am the third party and the marriage survived an affair, I feel happy for them.

There is a different between disloyal and being ungrateful toward the relationship. I won't say she is disloyal as she has acted for the best of both parties. Someone commented she is disloyal and I feel the word disloyal seems a little too strong to put on her, not even ungrateful.  As the fact is if she continues to be with him, she will never be able to lead a life that she has moved out many years ago, she will be a third party as he is still married.

Conclusion is, whether is disloyal or ungrateful, whatever seems to be, she is not heartless nor cold or cruel now, the decision she made 10 years to stop the affair is right, and even if she is single again, the decision is still the same, not to get involved again in third party relationship as he is still married. This is a wise move. Living in the past is not going work and grow for future....and even if you have had good memories before in the past relationship, that does not guarantee it can be the same again.

What do you think ?