Sharing from the heart

"A true friend is the most precious of all possessions "

" Hold a true friend with both your hands "

I have learned something from a friend. Something very useful to all us and it is all about our eating habits and its relations to our blood type.  It helps one to understand our self better !

http://www.dadamo.com/yourbloodtype.htm

What I enjoy most is the sharing part and the concern from friends towards our well being.  I feel the important of friend.  We have many type of friends, the number is not important but to have a friend who truly cares for us, and to realise the presence, I must say I am grateful and happy to know, and I count the blessing for that !

Here I like to say...thanks for sharing !  Yes,  I must love myself, my body !

A brilliant Tuesday

It is going to be a great Tuesday

A day with great achievement

It will be a busy day

Meeting client and new business

I look forward to this day

A great day for the week

I wish you all the same 

Have a wonderful day !

A good day for me....!

A song for Monday night

A long day at work

Spent a lot of time on the road

Feel tired due to the heat

plus the hectic weekend !

Hope you enjoy this song !  Good night all....sweet dream :-)

A crazy weekend escapade

Just feel like to note this crazy weekend away....

I was away back to my hometown for "Cheng Beng" and we left on Friday and getting to the airport is really worrisome because the traffic was extremely congested.   The very next morning, we woke up early to get to the cemetery and by noon, I was totally exhausted due to the heat !

Spent the entire afternoon getting more sleep and of course sinfully...food that I missed.  Had a real good Thai/Chinese style dinner at a restaurant somewhere far like 14 km away from KB. Haha do we call that far ???  And I miss my favourite White House supper again this time....sigh !

And this morning, as early as 5 am, we had to get ready for airport...and back to KL early morning and the rest of the day is all about errants !

A very long and tiring day...good night !

I like these song...sharing with you here !

A divine evening

I am happy last night because I managed to attend the dhamma talk by Ven Ajahn Nyanadhammo, a disciple of Ajahn Chah.   His approach and teaching is very practical. I must admit that I have not gone through any Buddhism teaching but basically I only practise dhamma through what I understand of  5 Precepts.

Last night, he shared with us on Self Ego and how and why we should put others above self.     Buddha's way of teaching is based on gradual teaching.  And the teaching of dhamma will not go on the extreme to make one understand.   And I find this very true as everyday we face different situation and we apply ways to overcome somehow, may not be right the first time but eventually we will find the right path.

One of the way to start letting go of self ego is to practise dana generosity.  Practising dana can be as easy as a smile to someone we know, stranger.  Giving a praise to cheer someone and word of kindness is just another form of dana. All these will not cause us any pain for making others happy :)

The entire evening was divinely inspired !  Simple phrases like "We take responsible of things that we said", "Loving kindness as the fundamental of life" and "Love others above self..can be unconditional" inspired me and reinstated my principle of life. 

In life, nothing is permanent, we came to this world is because of our karma, we choose to be born and to suffer.   So what we are dealing and suffering today has to do with our karma. Why do we have so much suffering is all about what we want and desire.  Perhaps if we compare less, and live more contented life, we will live a happier life, creating less negative energy in us and we naturally will attract good energy that leads us spiritually.

I like to see people happy and I want to bring happiness to others just a smile, a text message, a hello or if a hug ! Or simply saying something that will praise another person.  

I have felt the kindness of someone immediately when I was at The Garden.  By chance I walked into the premium toilet @ RM5 per entry and politely I asked the attendance if there is a non premium toilet, and he said..Do you have Robinson or Isetan membership with you, I told him sorry I don't have either one with me ! And he showed me by hand gesture with a smile...Please madam !  I was so moved by his kindness...and I thanked him for that !

"We are what we think. 

All that we are arises with our thought. 

With our thoughts, we make our world."

~The Buddha

Challenges of a mother

What is the challenges of a mother ?  It is a question that has many answers and it can't be listed out and covers for all mothers.  Some parents have to deal with very sick child, death, kidnapped, rebellious and many more.

I like to share what I have learnt from my client, she has a teenage son 16 years old and since I knew her, she told me how stressful she is dealing with her son every morning and having to meet the principal in school on disciplinary matters !

The problem is her son refused to attend school and he has missed 5 months last year !  The reason is that he finds it not interesting to study in school and there is nothing much to learn from.  And he feels he is able to do the same at home.  Surprisingly he passed his PMR last year !

So, we went into understanding what are his son's interest ! He loves music and he enjoys playing different instruments.  So we encourage her to let him explore on his interest.  Next, we suggest to make a deal with her son and the school, allowing him home studies for 3 months or so, and if he can make through, there is really something to think about !  But if he fails, he has to agree to the mom to go back to school.

Actually this young man wants to study even want to take GCE, but the problem is he just doesn't want to be in the school environment.    And we also explore on the possibility of him pursuing his interest enthusiastically, but his mom still insisted that he must complete the formal education.

I sympathised and felt for her getting her son out from bed to go to school.....during our chat yesterday, she actually cried due to the emotional pain of failing to coach her son.

This is just one challenge for a great mom...and there are more !  I have my own challenges to dealing with my kids,  woman said to me, it is good be single mom as you made your decision for your children.  I hope I have made right decisions so far, sometimes I am not sure if my method is right, but I hope they will be successful in their own ways.  Mostly importantly, they must be conscience and let it lead them to be a great person !

Our advice to her is to let go a little and when she is less tense with the situation, the outcome might be better for both !  

This is all about the unconditional love from a mother for her children :)

You are a great mom

Lately I have friends telling me and reminded of how great a mom I have been.  I humbly do not know if I am qualified to feel great about it !  I know it is not something I have a choice but is god gifted responsibility, I just have to do it.   It is my noble responsibility to raise them, provide the parental care, protect them and teach them to be good.

When someone praised me...I have 3 different reactions :

1.   Feel great

2. Feel pressure

3. Feel emotional

I am sure all mothers feel the same when they have done something great for the kids.  It is just natural to think like this.  I do feel great but at the same time, I will feel pressure cause I don't know if I can continue to be a great mom, or if I am really a great mom to them.    Have I done the best for my children.  

About emotional, it is always the most painful feeling for me, I can't help to think the role as a mother is not easy that I earn a compliment for being one!  What makes it harder for me is my situation as a single mother.   Sometimes I feel, why do I have to go through this path of life ?  Why must it be me ?

Then,  I will calmly think again, everything happened for a reason, there is always something for me to look forward in this life journey !  And I should stay as positive as possible that life ahead will be great and rewarding.  I will think of how sweet it is when my little girl kisses me !

I enjoy being a great mom for my precious children !

Self Sufficient and Happy

I had a real good chat with a friend whom I have known for many years through work....not one of those that trying to chat me up over the net.

We chat on work, life, experiences, personal life and etc.   So, we both agree that we need to be self sufficient and be contented with our self.  Firstly, we start with healthy lifestyle,  including eating healthy food, cut down on alcohol, working out, meditation and both of us are not smokers but we used to drink together ! He is now into dieting plan, detoxing programme is over.  

And on spiritual side, he laughed and said all women would think man is important in their life and including his 2 sisters.  He has boosted my confident further that staying spiritually high, gives one extra confident and it will attract the opposite and life is so much more happier that way.

Being self sufficient, we are more easily contented with our life, live simple and find happiness in oneself.  Overall, I am a very confident person, resilient to face any consequences in life..and strong enough to lead my life though it seems like a real challenging life ahead !   

It has been a real lengthy chat..thanks buddy for sharing this valuable chat with me and he is a real changed man I noticed since past few months.   We need to know our value so we will know how to love ourself and to love others around us.  Having to understand myself and what is the purpose of me here...is very important to drive my life and for the family !

p/s : sorry to keep you awake way past your normal bedtime :-)  it must have been so interesting to explore what life is all about and how we could make the best out of it !

I just need to note this down...it has been an inspirational chat !

Good luck and stay well !

A song for the night

It has been a long day for me, and it is only Monday..but on the  bright side..it should be a productive week !

And it is time to unwind and I will listen to a few of my favourite songs...and tonight I choose this for you !

It would be nice to have some one plucking the guitar and sing for me...and slowly I fall asleep...sweet dream !  Good night :-)

What do you think of this woman ?

What do you think of single women ?  I have many friends who are single not married, still looking for Mr. Right, and some single mothers and widow.  Here I am posting the question of what men think about single women of this profile :

1. Divorced
   
2. Attractive looking
   
3. Early 40s
   
4. Have children
   
5. Sensible and loving personality
   
6. Working
   
7. Capable and independent

What do you think are the possible responses of men in these categories when they meet such a lady :

1. Single below 40s
   
2. Single in their 40s
   
3. Single above 50s
   
4. Divorced
   
5. Married in their 40s
   
6. Widower with kids 
   

What I like to know is the first impression and what would be the first approach ? Whether there will be any development into relationship will depend on  who the man is I supposed ?   Some of my male friends say guys do take advantage of women in this category ?  How about sympathy ? Could it be nothing serious but seeking companion or just flirting around ? Is this possible ?

Does it make sense ??

Hope to have your comments ! Thanks :-)

Have I changed that much ?

I was sharing the lift with my neighbour the other day and the maid said :

"Madam, you look very pretty la...you sudah kurus, sudah lain macam, 

nampak lagi muda pada dulu !"

and her employer said :

" Are you a new tenant here ?"

" I don't remember I have seen you before !"

" How long have you moved here ?"

And I kept explaining to her I have met her so many times !  But she kept denying she has seen me before...

I was totally puzzled, I have stayed here for the past 8 years and she has at least for 6 years !  And we shared the same lift once awhile !

And today her maid told me :

"Saya punya Madam tak ingat, dia kata Madam banyak lain sekarang, dia tak boleh ingat ini orang sama"

Have I really changed that much ?  I really wonder !?

Anyway, I had a good laugh !

My son's birthday party

Weeks back I posted about where to organise my son's birthday party !  And finally the big day has arrived.

My son's could have celebrated his birthday on the actual day...but terrible mommy has to travel so the party has been delayed.  

So it took place at Camp 5 at One U, New Wing.  Mostly his school mates and a few neighbours.   Gosh, he grew up fast and he is already 10 years old.  I remember when I first had him, I quit my job to be a full time mommy...it was a real tough job but I enjoyed !  I must say that he is the lucky one who has all my attention during the first year !  Whereas my other 2 children was mixture of me and my helpful maid.

We have about 19 children and they had to go through the preparation for the climb.  It is exciting for both parents and children.  I supposed it is also the peer competition that they are encouraged to do the same.

The most funny part of the party was this boy, my neighbour 9 years old, he reached the top of the wall confidently but he couldn't come down !  Everyone gave him moral support and instruction to hold the rope, lean backward and lay the feet flat on the wall, but instead he hanged on tightly to the wall.   One of the boy went up and showed him the method, it didn't work..and finally the marshal went up and guess what ??? Hahaha....he said, don't hold me !!!

Finally, after much struggling with him, the marshal managed to hold him and brought him down.  I was worried that he is traumatised...and he said, if I let go of the wall, they will bring me down with the rope....hahahaha ! What to say ??? 

Overall..the kids had good time and a good work out for all, and I was totally worn out..not that I did the climb !  I need to rejuvenate and sleep more I guess !

The pics that I have posted here are all "cicak looking" pics.....lol !  Climbers right ??

Can you trust me ?

Can you trust me ?  Trust matter....how to deal with it ?

 

I was talking to a lady and she said she had argument with this guy and it is a matter of trust related to business.   What's more in relationship where both parties are committing seriously into responsibility, taking care and trusting the person on intimate level.   Trust the person you loved and finally you are betrayed...posting your indecent pictures on the net and etc...I supposed when you can share some very personal pictures of you to someone, it entails great trust in that friendship to start with.

People often asked you don't trust me ?   How to response ? Have you ever trust a person 100% and no doubt at all of any possibilities that he won't cheat you ?  There is no 100% assurance in anything...this is side topic....my ex colleague from AIA has suffered tremendous loss when AIG faced the financial crisis.  Some of them were nearly millionaire but sadly overnight...they are not !  Unless they have another good 20 years with the company to see the share price return to those good old days !  So they have entrusted their retirement funds with the lucrative share options that they have accumulated over the years !

Why is there so much fear for people to get committed into relationship ?  Is it about TRUST ??? Trust or  not trusting the person that this relationship will last ?  I really have no answer to it.. ..it goes by instinct at first, any thing can happen but as long as both enjoy being together, build up the confidence and understanding, seeing the great value in each other...and the rest we shall leave it to our fate !

What do you think ?

Just my thoughts :-)

Entertaining daughter

My little girl who has just turned 3 recently...is a real cutie !  She is at the age that is fun to play with !!

She hasn't gone to play school but she has great interest in music and dance.  Probably this is due to the expose to music at zero age !  She started her baby music class while she was only 2 months old...very much at new born age !  I remember then, I was still in my post pregnancy shape and regularly attended the weekend class !

Each time when we play any concert DVD, she will imitate the movement and she really amused me !

Here I am watching her and she enjoys watching ballet, and asking me to send her to school... even tried to do break dance....lol !

Looks like I really have to look for a school for this cute little girl !

Relaxation

A friend asked me how do I relax ? Especially now that he just learnt what a dramatic life I have gone through and what are the challenges ahead of me !

So I told him that I usually will go for a good massage, foot reflexology, facial or just a good hair wash !  Today, I decided to do something to make me happy also to relax......actually I just came back from a very hectic trip..and I loss my appetite since I came back strangely !  So I went for a Thai massage.   This is just to pamper my tired body, my shoulder that is always carrying a 2 kg bag full of working papers, camera and etc.  

I like this Thai masseur...I find her better than the one I had in Chiangmai recently !  No doubt it is dirt cheap in Thailand...but I don't feel satisfied with the technique and skills.  This one that I went to this afternoon, she really know where to stretch and I really enjoyed the one hour session.  I will defintely go back to her again...it is more than 12 hours after the massage, I don't feel any pain or ache on my body !

Speaking of massage, I find it very romantic to do it for our partner.  Too bad I am not trained professionally ! However this little gesture or actions we showed to our partner..at times can be ticklish more than therapeutic...may mean a lot and it is a way to build the bonding and closeness.

I enjoy this moment...

Just my sharing of experience I had today :-)

My treats for my maid

This evening as usual...my precious kids will debate where to eat and what to eat ! The boy wants to eat noodle...the girl wants to eat fried chicken wings..and etc.  And it is just normal that they do not agree immediately.  

And my daughter is usually the one who would give in...very much my character...lol.  But tonight, I changed the option to suit the maid's appetite.  We ended up at this restaurant at the Curve called Warong Penyet !

It is an Indonesian cuisine and once I packed for her and she enjoyed it.  So, all ends up well...they kids had a good hearty meal and it is also a way for me to thank my maid whom I have entrusted my 3 children with her fully while I am away at work.

Many friends asked me how could I trust a foreign maid to handle my kids without any supervision !  My answer is always the same...I reciprocate her kindness and efforts and it is a two way appreciations.   We read in the newspaper about maid who hit the employer and or otherwise...sounded scary..but I feel it is all about being sincerely kind and honest.  I guess this is not only applicable to handling maid....also how we treat our friends and family...it will be appreciated at the end.

So far, I must say I am pretty lucky and blessed with good maid !

Earth Hour

Lately there is a lot of publicity about the conservation of energy and it seems very encouraging so far that people shown their concern to what is happening to the earth !

I remember years back, I initiated this at home and we set it on every Sunday night !   Those days,  we usually dined out and when we returned, it is time to unwind and get ready for another productive week.  The children get really excited and want to be part of the preparation !  I will light many candles around the house for one hour...and open up the sliding doors for fresh air...the good thing is I live on the upper floor where I get good flow of breeze !  It feels good to see all the different candles and it changes our mood immediately !

I have not been doing it regularly, maybe it is time to do it again !  Get back to simplicity in life and teach the children to understand and appreciate life and what modernisation has brought to us either ways !

Save our world...starts from us !

A diary left open

I was inspired by a friend to blog....

And that is the beginning of my diary that is left opened !

I write what I feel, my thoughts, life experiences, jokes, family and everything !

I don't know who reads my life journal, probably the reader will know everything about me and my life...who cares actually !!??  It is my life and my experiences that I like to note it down.   And to remember events that took place in my life be it sad or happy.

One day when I leave this world...my children or someone who cares and like to remember me will probably print it out and make it a journal !

It is nice to blog actually and kind of addicted after sometimes.  Who knows again, tomorrow I will stop blogging...haha !

Thanks for sharing your blog with me too !

Do you know if someone cares for you ?

It is a very chilly and windy evening.  I just got home after meditation class !  Pretty much my routine...nothing exceptional lately.  I keep my life simple !  I was thinking a lot while driving home.  

Recently I read about how rampant those cases of snatch thief, robbery and etc that is so threatening to our lives.  I always hear people telling me to be extra careful with my handbag, even crossing the road and getting into the car.   Good to be extra careful, never know when is the misfortune taking place.

And being single and driving alone most of the times, my girl friend who cares so much about me reminded me too, please take care of yourself and don't drive late night.

At times I really feel like having that "someone" who would call me to check if I have reached home safely.  Is not about me being manja...but just feel good knowing there is someone who cares.  Just a show of concern, you know what I mean ???  

I am seen as a very independent person and obviously capable of taking care of myself...but at the end of the day, I need shelter and attention...especially when I am lonely and after a long busy day..I like to have that someone to care for me !

Life is such that I just have to learn to adapt and make the best out of it.  

Just my thought la.....nice sentimental songs to share with you :)

Sweet Dream

On a solitude night

I think a lot about life

I think of you

It was like a dream

A dream that was so real

So sweet and so unforgettable

It was a sweet dream for me

A dream that I enjoyed

May be it is not real for you !

It means nothing to you !

You touched my heart

Standing at the viewing deck of the world tallest building

Reminds me of the movie Sleepless In Seattle

The scene where they eventually met

And a friend who loves this movie

It is time for reminiscing our time together

What is left are the history of our chat

Places we went, movie we watched

Reading his blog was like a ritual to me

Where he shared his feelings and creative thoughts

And something about us...

I can't believe how we started and how we ended !

How deeply and madly in love we were !

You came and touched my heart truly !

For as long as I could

This memory stays close to my heart !

My trip to Taiwan

It has been awhile since I traveled abroad on assignment !  The last trip was to Hong Kong and Shenzhen.  But comparatively, this is a better trip that I have more control and able to perform better.

Thankfully I have been to Taipei before and my knowledge of the city does help.

As usual I worked with a local guide and he is in his 50+, experienced and well knowledge and a person who works with passion just like me. Constantly we discussed how to make things better for the guests and we teamed up well.

He is a funny guy and he actually wanted to share dirty jokes with us apart from the general information, culture, history and politics, but due to we have young children, he resented from talking dirty jokes...but when the parents given the green light...hehe, his topics expanded...more exciting.   He shared with us studies on sexual behaviour of men in Taiwan as compared to Singapore.  Poor Singaporean ladies...hardly had orgasm ! So funny the way he told us.  Don't know how true la...according to him Singapore men work under extreme pressure.. !  

Taiwanese guys generally are more romantic and they do not have belly as they aged, as they care about their health, intake of nutritional food and they exercise a lot more than Malaysian..true though !

I was there for 5 days, and I worked even longer hours as compared to working in KL.  The day started from 7 am till 10.30 pm every night except for the night we stayed at the farm.   And my programme continued from 10.30pm to meet my friend and my sister.   I was deprived from sleep and the last night, client wanted to go out for a drink....and strangely in Taipei some pubs are closed from Monday to Wednesday !  We went around a few places and finally we settled at one called Brown Sugar.    And it was recommended by a very kind cab driver who can't speak good English...we had difficulty understanding his "Brang Sigar"...haha ! We stayed till 2.30 am...and we left for airport at 5am.  Gosh...hardly one hour of sleep !  I regretted joining them...sigh !

I must write this down how I felt about Taiwanese...they are generally very kind hearted people, willing to help.  When I met up with my friend, he took me out for nice supper, drove me around to show me more of Taipei, but due to it was too cold and I was tired, otherwise, I could have seen more of Taipei's night life.

On another occasion, while we were in the cab, the driver knew we were pub hunting and immediately he played some jazz songs for us, just to build up the mood.   I told him I like those songs, guess what....he gave me the CD !  Where on earth can you find such a kind and generous person ??? 

So after 5 days of hectic schedule, I came home looking sick and tired....just need some rest and I am ready to work again tomorrow !

Little kisses

The best thing since I came home is the kisses from my little girl.

She is so adorable and she kissed me countless time.  She had her nap with me and she kissed me before she slept and I cuddled her to sleep.   When I told her I have a backache....she immediately gave me a few "gentle massages"....lol !

She woke up and she played with me on the bed and she kissed me again and again....

These kisses and little actions warm my heart and make me happy :)

I love her very much ! 

A song for you

A song dedicated to you the one I truly missed !

 

I love you for sentimental reasons

I hope you do believe me

I'll give you my heart

I love you and you alone were meant for me

Please give your loving heart to me

And say we'll never part

I think of you every morning

Dream of you every night

Darling, I'm never lonely

Whenever you are in sight

I love you for sentimental reasons

I hope you do believe me

I've given you my heart

I love you for sentimental reasons

I hope you do believe me

I've given you my heart

My name and what it reveals ?

Someone read my name

Share his view and to my shocking

How could he read my character from my name ?

Accurately told 

Only time will tell if they are true !

Other masters have told me the same before

Some of the things he shared...

Interesting...

What chinese character can tell of a person's character !

And I hope what he said will come true !

Work with passion

Been away for few days, mind is all focused on the trip..

Apart from missing my loved ones !

Constantly thinking about how to ensure client's is satisfied and happy

Less complaints and appreciation in some way..

It is hard to please everyone, from food to room to almost everything

But I did what I could...and I know I have put in my best effort !

Yet there are things beyond my control...sigh

It is a great feeling when clients showed their appreciation and gratitude for a  meal well selected and organised !

I am glad I have chosen this restaurant !

Miss my children

I missed them so much for the past few days !

Everything that I do and see, I thought about them all the times.   I bought this cutlery set for my little girl just to make it complete and fair for all.  So happy about it.

I really miss them so much during the entire trip, and for another sentimental reason, this city reminds me of our family last vacation....

I missed my son's birthday and thankfully my sis is around to celebrate with him.   That day we were at the safari / theme park and seeing my client's and their family enjoying themselves...I feel so sad that I can't do the same for them.   Seeing parents calling their children and attend to them and play with them, my heart became weak, I kept myself away and avoided that feeling and I went on to play a few thrilling rides.  Well...I did it ! I don't think i would do it again ! Haha....I survived.

 

I guess everyone has a story of their life....

I am so exhausted from the trip...I feel I am getting older and my stamina is not as good as before must be the age !  

I think I am falling sick, voice is changing and body ache all over :(

Got to rest early...! Sharing with you a few beautiful pics taken at Yang Ming Shan's floral festival !

So cold in Taipei

I left for Taiwan on Saturday morning, and my friend from Taipei sent me an sms to let me know the sudden cold weather expected.   It was really thoughtful of him but it was too late, I was already at the airport.

It was really icy cold about 10 degree Celsius...freezing cold !  Never thought it can be so cold in March !  Since the arrival, we haven't stopped eating from this food street to another street.  

I hadn't prepared the right winter clothes...but I am still surviving !

It is our 2nd day...we traveled to the North East of Taipei along the coastal side.    A few of us decided to break through...enjoy hot spring fully naked...for the first time.  It is actually quite normal for people here...somehow, we are quite conservative back home.

Tonight we are experiencing farm stay.  DIY BBQ dinner and we had hands on production of "heavenly lantern".  The making of the lantern is quite interesting, and the moment we let go and seeing it flying up...it is really something to experience.  

What is happening tomorrow ?  Sunrise at 6.00 am...hmmmm not sure if I will get up !  Plucking of fruits at orchard, I have to go..and another full day programme till the end of the day!

I made my wish and hope it will come true soon...

Good night !

A day without a phone

A day without my mobile phone, I felt lost  :( 

Today, it seems like a day without tomorrow, I have a long list of things to do ! Coupled with a few unexpected events eg. bringing the girls to clinic, entertained client's last minute changes flight itinerary.

I was in a hurry to bring the children to clinic and get what has to be done for them.   I don't want them to get worst than now.  Both are having runny nose and bad cough,  and one has bleeding nose too due to excessive wet nose !

Guess what...I left my precious mobile phone at home.   I thought of contacting my client while waiting at the clinic..sigh !  Instantly I feel insecure, feeling lost and a lot wandering !  Have I dropped my phone as I stepped out from the car, could I have dropped it in the car ? What if I lost my phone, how about all the contact I have stored in my phone.   The outcome is "negative" not found inside the car !  I just have to comfort myself, I may have left it at home, just stay relax without a phone for few hours.  The thing is I surf the net, read email and occasionally chat on mobile, so can you imagine how I felt without having it with me !!  

Since I started using a mobile phone like 15 years ago, I haven't really live a day without it.  Once I was traveling in Myanmar, and that was the only time I lived without a mobile phone for 5 days.  Totally cut out from other part of the world, no roaming while we were abroad. 

1st day I felt strange..and not quite used to it, it was all so silence...the funny part is my handbag is lighter too, 2nd day..beginning to realise without a phone can be quite good, no disturbances, unnecessary calls from client. 3rd day onwards, it is totally peaceful without a phone. The moment we touched down at KLIA, the sms started to come through...one after another....

In another word, it is just a matter of getting used to it.  After sometimes, we will adapt to the changes ! It is always difficult at the beginning...

What about you ??  Do you feel the same ??

Good night !

My children

It is a wet Friday morning, woke up early but I can't proceed with my regular walk in the morning.  I haven't been walking enough for the week....sigh !  Nevermind...I will take the stairs up to office instead !

My 2 princesses will come inside my room every morning, one is to show me her school work and the little one is to kiss me !

This morning, the little came to me and she is coughing and having a cold after her fever few days back.  She is so cute, she came to me again and again just to let me know she is having a runny nose !!  And she said..."mama bring me see doctor"..3 years old broken english still !...lol !

She is so adorable, she wanted me to cuddle her...and she kissed me non stop....she makes me smile in my heart !  

Out of 3, two are sick...doctor, doctor here I come.  Hopefully it is not going to be another 4 hours of waiting !

I just love them !

A sad post I read

I feel sad today after reading a friend's blog.

I wish I could help to lighten his burden and stress.  I know there is nothing much I can do for him. I believe he will cope well as he is a very spiritual person !  

Life is a lesson..yes we are learning everyday and we cope with it somehow naturally.  I have my own share of challenges and I am glad I am still surviving and here I am helping others how to lead a happier life.

As a friend, all I want to say is "whenever you need a hug of comfort...I am here always" !  I wish him well and be strong to face challenges ahead !

May this light brings you wisdom.  

Take care and Metta !

請珍惜你身边的傻女人

My email forwarder cum good friend just sent me this...I have cut and paste here for sharing !

女人有時真的好傻，可以為了愛一個男人，而拋下自己的父母，來照顧那男人的父母；但男人不用

女人有時真的好傻，可以為了愛一個男人，而寧願自己挺顆又重又大的球十個月，只為了替那男人生下一個跟男人姓的下一代；還得承受生完小孩後的體質變差、身材變形的後遺症，但男人不用

女人有時真的好傻，可以為了愛一個男人，而放棄一卡車追求他的好男人，只為和男人長廂廝守，卻埋沒了最美的青春；但男人卻不為青春所懼，反而愈老愈值錢

女人有時真的好傻，可以為了愛一個男人，而放棄父母給她二十多年的姓，而跟著老公姓，又被冠上'太太'二字；但男人沒變

女人有時真的好傻， 可以為了愛一個男人，而早上上班，晚上煮飯做家事帶小孩，有工作也有家事的壓力；但男人沒差，反而多了個賺錢的人和不用給薪的女傭

女人有時真的好傻，可以為了愛一個男人，而去適應一個完全不同的家庭和面對男人的親友團批評，女人懂事的試圖尋求男人的保護時，換來的是...男人不僅沒有保護他的女人，反而一起落井下石，在一個女人孤力無援的環境裡~~~

男人啊 ！ 若你您的身邊有這樣的一個傻女人時，請當她的笨男人，好好的珍惜她、照顧她吧

別忘了，她不是天生就該來照顧你們全家大小的，女人很單純也很懂事，只要當她受傷時，好好傾聽她、支持她、保護她，為她拭淚，她就會感動一輩子

更別忘了，當男人年老時或生病時為您把屎把尿的，絕不是已老的也要您照顧的父母，最有可能的就是從年輕到老，始終在您身邊的女人。


女人们，你们赞同吗？
男人们，你们有珍惜吗？

The Sign

Yesterday a friend asked  me if I was still feeling hurt from my past ?

It took me awhile to reply, I thought and I gave him my reply.  I was hurt but life moves on.  Whether is sadness or happiness, these are impermanent, and we should not let this emotional state of mind affect us too much.   And the sadness and happiness comes and go, learn to let go and seek happiness within ourself, it helps.

The sign...what is this all about ?  

Late last night, after I sent an sms, I read some old messages that I have in my phone, some messages that I have kept, and I read them again and I realised, the sign is there.  He had this mindset of what is the future of his life.   He shown sign of unhappiness and willing to be parted with everything he has worked hard all his life !  It is a sign of force shaping the life he wanted.  What can I say anymore...I feel very sad actually, after so many years living together with him, I have failed to understand him and his ego was too much for him to open up with me about his stress.

Everything happened for a reason, including the timing and situation. Unfortunately it happened and I was made the cause for it.   I can only wish him well and be happy !  

After reading these messages again, do I feel hurt ? Yes I do, it is obvious !  But what had happened can only be the past, no matter how hurtful it was before, I am not heartless and emotionless, I have gone through a lot of sufferings.  Let the past be left as a part of my life and memories, I continue to live within the happiness that I have.  

I will treasure every bit of the happiness I have to make my life a better one.  To all who shared their life with me, may you be well, happy and peaceful.

Real meaning of attractive

I thought of this many times if external beauty is essential to attract men ?

Is beauty and  fashion savvy all that matters when considering attractive ?  Perhaps yes but not all, it is important to keep ourselves looking presentable but not all the way out to dress in dazzling outfit for any men to observe.  

Lately, a few friends talked to me about ways to stay young looking like Botox, placenta treatment and liposuction.  Honestly I care in keeping myself look neat and presentable, but I am not into any of these.

I find a real meaning of being attractive should be the maturity as I aged.  Keeping my best attributes and keeping up with what is best about me is essential.  I may not have a figure of a super model, but having the right confidence to stand tall above all is another attractiveness.

I shouldn't have fear of ageing, more wrinkles, fish tail line and a few stretch marks are just part of me.  An attractive women will make her life works for her to be happy.  And men will go after a woman whom they have respect and not taken for granted.  When you get down to it, men love women who have that special kind of indifference.   

So, why bother so much about all this cosmetic surgery that cost thousands, suffers so much pain for weeks while recovery, worst if the surgery failed !  How about keeping one healthy and feeling of serene, the inner beauty sets in naturally.

I am confidence as I am now, like me the way I am, the way I live my life and how I keep up with myself.   However, everyone should do their best in looking presentable and decently dressed for the right occasion.

Ladies, do you agree ?  The external beauty sets the first impression, the women will have to upkeep herself, not for the man but is to boost her self confidence.  Ultimately I feel, the inner beauty is what attracts a man's heart !

New love

I found you

A new love in life

A life together seeking true love

Connect our heart and soul

In love again

So sweet and romantic

Spending all my life with you

Making every day of our life meaningful

What lies ahead of us

My answer is simple

Unconditional love = true love

Our true hearts take us to the future

Love that is true won't fade

I love you honestly

Women's Day 三八妇女节

Today is International Women's Day !

A day to remember all the great women in the world including our mothers who brought us to this world.  A day to recognise women and their achievement in the society and our life.

One fact that I read in the paper today is that all human babies begin as girl....about after 8 weeks, it is either boy or girl due to the hormone Testosterone.

I am not here to blog about hormones...but the fact is hormones play an important in our life ! Another interesting article in the paper today, Sexual awakening at forty......the world is full of possibilities.  At different age in our life, men and women have different desires and statistically the common age for women to have affair is 45 and men is their mid 50s, when one life is more stable and settled.  

Another fact I read "Older women are more confident of who they are, and it's a deep-seated confidence, which means they are not scared of intimacy, and they are not scared of going all out for what they need to feel satisfied"

Hahaha...interesting !

This is a chat dialogue that I like to share :

A: my sex life with my husband is not exciting

B: Since you got married ?

A: Not really, it has been average, and worst lately

B : why do you settle for that ? Do you do something about it, since you know your sexual life isnt great from the beginning

A : when I got to know him, he was like a provider,  didn't go in depth on why sexual pleasure are so important for both,  just accepted it as part of him,  over the years, when the sexual life has become dull,  I beginning to realise, what I need is a much more sensitive man.

The above chat is probably something common in our life, but how do we overcome this, share it with our partner about our desire, can our spouse be more sensitive towards our needs ?  Sadly some "conservative couples" would just live with it, or eventually it will end up with having an affair unexpectedly.  Well, it takes two to work it out to find out what it will bring to the next level in ones marriage.  That's why there are so many books available to guide us to happier marriage through good sex.

On a lighter note, when I was in the market this morning, I have this funny conversation with the seller :

"today is your holiday, you don't have to work !"

I looked at him puzzling what he meant " huh, why ?" 

he said "today is women's day, your off day"

I laughed and said to him "look around you, they are still so many women here!

My warm wishes to all the great women !

Crazy Sunday Afternoon

It is crazy at The Ikano Power Centre...all because of the Ikea Sales and public holiday tomorrow.

I usually will never join the crowd during sales, walking through the packed Ikea, just passing human traffic can be another nightmare after surviving the congestion on the road.  But since I had to kill 2 hours waiting for the children, I have one good hour for grocery shopping, walking to unload the barang - barang into the car.  You know the trolley system at Ikano...trolley are not allowed to be pushed to the car. 

But I think I was very lucky, car park was full...and the guard open up for me to enter...and next I found a parking right next to the exit.   I had to load the stuff into the car, walk a few times back and forth ! Nevermind la, it is a good work out and weight lifting......lol !

The balance 30 mins, I decided to join the Ikea sales fan.  I walked pass the cafe...OMG, the queue was so long just for the curry puff / Hot dog or ice cream !  I will skip for sure, I rather go hungry or eat something else especially when it is so crowded.

So I made my way straight to the candle section,  along the way browsing very quickly on other items.  Can't really find what I wanted, also there isn't any great item on sale...also,  the thought of paying at the cashier.....I will not buy !!  So, as I walked my way out, I continue to browse but also observed the shoppers.  They came as a family, a group or a couple......and not many single person like me....lol.  I also noticed one couple showing black face....must be different opinions :(

And I realised walking alone is no longer strange to me ! In fact, I walked a lot faster than others......I managed to check out other shops and bought what I wanted.   Three shops that I went in...just to look see and ask about new products, people has been friendly and helpful.  They have made my swift shopping a good one ! 

And I bought a teddy bear for myself..it is called  The Bedtime Bear ~ my new companion on the bed !

Overall...crazy afternoon but still a good one :-)

Singing Sunday

A bright sunny Sunday

Feels like a great day

Every song I listen to

Is like a story of one's life

I am singing as I enjoy

Have a great weekend !

You look inside my fantasies

And make each one come true
Something no one else had ever found a way to do
I've kept the memories one by one
Since you took me in
I know I'll never love this way again

I know I'll never love this way again
So I keep holding on before the good is gone
I know I'll never love this way again
Hold on, hold on, hold on

A fool will lose tomorrow
Reaching out for yesterday
I won't turn my head in sorrow
If you should go away

I'll stand here and remember
Just how good it's been
And I know I'll never love this way again

I know I'll never love this way again
So I keep holding on before the good is gone
I know I'll never love this way again
Hold on, hold on, hold on

Through the window of my soul

All the secrets that I hold
Will be yours to share for always, always

Like a whisper in the wind
The gentle breeze touches my skin
And I know you’re with me always, always

I can feel it in the air
The fire that we share
Can only come from deep within

It’s a light that burns so bright
It guides you through the night
And leads you to me
So find your way back

And hold me, touch me
Let the love come rushing through me
I'm yours with every breath I take
forever and ever

hold on, to love
cause deep down
That’s what we’re made of
Never let go for my heart’s sake
cause my heart belongs to you

I lie awake to hear you breathe
Only you can feel the need
That builds and burns so deep inside me, inside me

As the moon lights up the sky
There’s a thousand reasons why
My heart will only beat for you

You’re the reason that I live
So now all I’ve got to give
I give it to you
Just don’t fight the feeling

Hold me, touch me
Let the love come rushing through me
I'm yours with every breath I take
Forever and ever

Hold on, to love
cause deep down
That’s what we’re made of
Never let go for my heart’s sake
cause my heart belongs to you

(Don’t give up, but just give in) ah (I will always be here waiting for you) waiting for you
Love will see us through…

Hold me, touch me
Let the love come rushing through me
I'm yours with every breath I take
Forever and ever

Hold on, to love
Cause deep down 
That's what we're made of
Never let go for my heart's sake
Cause my heart belongs to you

My heart belongs to you (4x)

Who can say
where the road goes
where the day flows
only time
And who can say
if your love grows
as your heart chose
only time
Who can say
why your heart sighs
as your love flies
only time
And who can say
why your heart cries
when your love lies
only time

Who can say
when the roads meet
that love might be
in your heart
And who can say
when the day sleeps
if the night keeps
all your heart

Night keeps all your heart

Who can say
if your love grows
as your heart chose
only time
And who can say
where the road goes
where the day flows
only time

Who knows - only time
Who knows - only time