Having an affair

I read this interesting article about becoming mistress. And I have wrote a post on similar topic before. What is noticeably different in affairs is when one is kept as a "secret" and one becomes an "open" relationship.

When it is a secret relationship, it takes a lot more for the woman to cope with having a man in her life that she can only see him once awhile. It is also more peaceful for the relationship. When the man goes home, he is seen as a responsible father and loving husband...hmmmm some times it may not be. As for the woman, it is the loneliness she has to deal with.

When the relationship is open and "accidentally" known to the family, it surely will create unrest situation in the family, shocking and unbelievable that their loving father is loving someone else. In some instances, the mistress can be as young as his children. A lot of time, the man is not happy with his marriage life or he lacks something in his life and found it from the mistress. Mistress is just a woman who happens to be hook up to a married man, she can be a very kind and modest lady who know how to take care of her man, please spare an understanding and not to discriminate.

Once the relationship is no longer a secret, I feel it is time for the man to make some decision. Some situation can turn very ugly and it maybe fights between two women or more....like those in the movie. The man will have to make a choice how to deal with the situation. To leave the mistress or to have best of both world. To have best of both world, for the mistress it may seems easier, as they have started on the ground that she knew he is married and the relationship has been secret anyway, but for the wife, she needs to live a life behind a shadow, she needs to regain total trust or just live to accept it.

Sometimes I feel if two persons choose to love in such circumstances (affairs relationship), it is best to keep it private or secret as much as possible. As long as they are happy with the company even though times spent together is short. To be able to find a person who makes you happy is not easy, why makes it miserable when you found each other ? Love is a gift...make it worthwhile when you are in love. Life is too short to love!

Just my thoughts about having an affair.