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A lady with great sense of humour..love to laugh enjoy friends company, choose to live in current moment, forget about yesterday..like what a friend said to me tomorrow is mystery.. Happiness is a voyage...not a destination. "You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free"

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Starting a new relationship vs fear of past love

Have you ever loved someone so much but somehow the ending is a break up ? Even in marriage you have loved this person your entire life, committed the whole life but it is still a painful separation.

I am sure all of us have been through this process which can be painful for both. Perhaps one can take it easy and move on with life better, but the other one might take it very hard. Also there are situation whereby they felt so hurt of what they been through and left them with bad memories even taking pain to start another relationship.  

Learning to move forward especially emotional pain is not easy because we have spent many years trying to protect ourselves from our own pain. We can make this easier by recognizing that if we are disturbed by somebody’s behaviour, this must be because we have our own negative self-beliefs in this area. We can therefore choose to work on these insecurities and heal the original heartbreaks and mistaken self-concepts that came out of them.  It takes practice, but if we can remain aware of what is happening within our relationships, we can soon begin to enjoy the opportunity for healing that they represent!  

Every couple will start of a relationship and go through different stages, love is an instinct, it flows in naturally, always sweet at the beginning, honey moon stage, then move on to a more committal stage when both are ready.  Undeniably some will not continue to commit as their fear or insecure feelings overtaken the true love infront of them. In fact, we tend to be too logical with what we think of our life, when the logical sense over powering what lies inside our heart that we truly want, we might miss some great moments and people that come pass us.   Many times, we tend to protect our self  from being hurt, rather live as single unwilling to confront the terrifying possibility of happiness..........

When the past love left us with unforgettable sad memories.  It is just natural for one to step back, withdraw and reconsider if this new love would have the same fate or perhaps greater love journey.  When the new love experience is so overwhelmed..just have the faith and believe that time has come for you to embrace the love to next level and be loved.  I feel to be in love and feel loved either way take great challenge and courage for both.  It is when "ONEness" is all about and ready to share good and bad of one another.

It is only possible when one is ready and this love relationship should be built on strong faith and willingness to take the lead to build a future together.

Let's keep this passion of love strong especially when both met their destiny as a soulmate !  

Below are few songs from Peter Cetera..his concert is in March and I really hope I can be there to watch him live....I hope you will enjoy these songs !

You are the inspirations


Do you love me that much


After All

Glory of Love


Next Time I Fall

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